GRIEF AND LOSS
Grief (or loss) is one of the most intense emotions
we will ever experience in life.
The pain is real and gripping.
Grief isn't always about death.
It can be the loss of a relationship, job or even the
relationship you hoped to have.
You can feel loss and grief even when leaving
a volatile relationship or situation.
Grief and loss is about the breaking of a connection, regardless of the context of that relationship.
Sometimes, when in an unhappy relationship, we mourn what might have been - or suffer anxiety as we work through
the conflicting feelings we have before we make that
commitment to leave. Often Domestic Abuse survivors
go back to their abusive partners because the adrenalin loss feels so desperate, and the mourning of what they hoped the relationship would be, is so overwhelming.
Hypnotherapy can help you work through these emotions,
by helping you to move forward
- we don't always move on -
but we can move forward.
Grief can take hold years after the loss and feel as intense, and sometimes stronger as time goes by.
If you are suffering from grief or loss, please read on.
Grief and loss can cause an array of emotions.
So often grief brings fear that you will forget the person you have lost from your life.
It can bring up strange feelings such as anger, denial, guilt, stress and shame. It is more usually seen with a death or life-changing illness, but it can be just as profound when it is the end of a relationship for whatever reason. Especially if you are the wronged party and find yourself seeking answers or questioning why you were not enough. This is particularly apparent in Domestic Abuse survivors. Grief and loss can lead to anxiety, depression, immense loneliness and sometimes even manifest as an auto-immune condition. The mind and body are so tightly intertwined.
There is of course the sense of deep loss, the feeling that you will never be able to carry on,
with well meaning friends and family insisting, it is time to move on. It can also be difficult to discuss or deal with because of the effect of grief on those closest to you. It can also have significant financial implications changing life in ways you never thought it would.
Loss can be expected or it can be sudden and a shock. Neither is easier than the other. Often people begin to grieve through the person's illness - before the death. There is no right or wrong.We all process things differently.
The feelings of unfinished business, words unsaid, questions that can now never be asked, can leave a huge deficit in the lives of those left behind.
Grief is a terribly hard, sad inevitability of love and life.
A loss through suicide is much more complex, in that there leaves behind a sense of guilt - could I have done more? Why did I not notice? Is this to punish me? There can be a sense of blame, and there is - sadly- still in many communities a stigma attached.
Grief is something people tend not to discuss, leaving the person who suffers the loss,
feeling isolated and alone.
Often, the feelings, thoughts and emotions we experience through these times,
are a result of the deep sorrow we feel.
Working through them in a safe, understanding environment can help to relieve the intensity
of these emotions making life that much easier to bear.
The specialised BLAST technique can help you cope and adapt to new or old grief.
If you are struggling with a loss, please don't hesitate to contact me.