Suicidal feelings can be incredibly isolating and overwhelming. As a therapist, I have seen first hand the depth of despair that can lead someone to feel like there’s no way out. It’s crucial to understand that these feelings, as intense and painful as they are, can be addressed and managed with the right support and intervention. Here, I want to offer a compassionate perspective on understanding suicidal feelings and provide guidance on what steps to take if you or someone you know is experiencing them.

First and foremost, it’s important to recognize that having suicidal thoughts do not mean the person is weak or flawed. Many people experience these feelings at some point in their lives, often as a result of overwhelming stress, depression, trauma, or other mental health issues. The key is to reach out for help and not to try to navigate these feelings alone. Never tell someone who is feeling like this, to get a grip, buck up or stop being silly. Do not belittle their thoughts and emotions.

Often suicidal thoughts are there because the pain, depression, trauma or something else, are so intense, that the sufferer feels there is no other way out. Because they cannot see a way out, suicide becomes an option for them. It is not always that they actually want to die, but they want the pain to stop, and often they cannot express that pain. Alcoholics and drug addicts often use these substances to block out their traumas, anxieties and depressions. What they need is understanding and help in exactly the same way someone feeling suicidal does.

Often someone with suicidal thoughts will not let on to anyone that they feel this way. The emotions and thoughts they are having are often too dark for them to want to share, or fear of judgement, lack of being understood or judged, or they just don't want to worry anyone else.

If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, the first step is to talk to someone you trust. This could be a friend, family member, or mental health professional. Opening up about your feelings can be incredibly difficult, but it’s a crucial step in finding relief and support. It is also something people do want to help with ! No one wants to lose you. Remember, you don’t have to face this alone—there are people who care about you and want to help.

Professional help is essential when dealing with suicidal feelings. Therapists, counsellors, and psychiatrists are trained to provide the support and interventions needed to address these thoughts. Therapy can offer a safe space to explore your feelings, understand the underlying causes, and develop coping strategies. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), for example, can help challenge and change the negative thought patterns that contribute to suicidal ideation. Trauma resolution can be extremely helpful.

In addition to professional help, there are several practical steps you can take to manage suicidal feelings. Creating a safety plan is one effective strategy. This plan should include a list of emergency contacts, coping strategies that work for you (like deep breathing, meditation, or engaging in a hobby), and steps to take if your feelings intensify. Having a concrete plan can provide a sense of control and preparedness.

Connecting with a support group can also be beneficial. Speaking with others who have experienced similar feelings can reduce the sense of isolation and provide valuable insights and encouragement. Many communities offer support groups, and there are also numerous online forums and resources available.

If you know someone who is experiencing suicidal thoughts, your support can make a significant difference. Listen to them without judgment, offer reassurance, and encourage them to seek professional help. It’s important to take any talk of suicide seriously and to act promptly. If you believe they are in immediate danger, do not hesitate to contact emergency services.

Finally, taking care of your overall mental health is crucial. This includes maintaining a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep. Practicing mindfulness and stress-reduction techniques can also help build resilience against overwhelming emotions. Building a strong support network and engaging in meaningful activities can foster a sense of connection and purpose.

In conclusion, suicidal feelings are a serious and urgent mental health issue, but they can be addressed with the right support and intervention. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out for help. Therapists, mental health professionals, and supportive communities are here to assist you. Remember, there is hope, and there are paths to healing. You are not alone, and help is available. Taking the first step towards seeking support is a courageous and vital move towards recovery and a brighter future.

Mind.org.uk have lots of helpful information.

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