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Losing someone you love to suicide is an experience that shakes you to your core. As a therapist, I have walked with many individuals through the aftermath of this heartbreaking loss. The feelings that arise can be complex and overwhelming, but there are ways to navigate through this difficult time. Here, I hope to offer some guidance and support for those grappling with such a profound loss.

Understanding Your Grief

Grieving a suicide can feel different from other types of loss. It's not just sadness; it's a whirlwind of emotions like shock, anger, guilt, confusion, and deep sorrow. You might find yourself asking, "Why?" over and over again. It's important to understand that these feelings are normal. Allow yourself to feel them without judgment. Your grief is valid.

Dealing with Guilt

One of the most common feelings after a loved one dies by suicide is guilt. You might wonder if there was something you could have done to prevent it. It's crucial to remember that you are not responsible for your loved one's actions. Mental illness and the circumstances leading to suicide are incredibly complex, often beyond what anyone could foresee or control. Be gentle with yourself and seek support to help navigate these feelings of guilt.

The Importance of Support

Grief can be isolating, especially when it involves suicide. Friends and family might not know how to offer support, and you might feel alone in your pain. Reaching out to a therapist or joining a support group for suicide survivors can provide a safe space to express your feelings and connect with others who understand your experience. You don’t have to go through this alone.

Self-Care is Essential

In the midst of your grief, self-care might seem impossible or even unimportant. However, taking care of your physical and emotional well-being is crucial. Simple acts like eating regular meals, getting enough sleep, and engaging in gentle activities can make a big difference. Remember, it's okay to take time for yourself. Grieving is a process, and it's okay to move through it at your own pace.

Finding Meaning and Purpose

In time, many people find it helpful to create something meaningful out of their loss. This could be through advocacy, raising awareness about mental health, or starting a memorial fund in honor of your loved one. Finding a way to turn your pain into a purpose can be a healing step in the grieving process.

Honouring Their Memory

Finally, it’s important to remember your loved one for the person they were, not just the way they died. Celebrate their life, cherish the memories you have, and honor them in ways that feel right to you. This might include creating a photo album, writing a letter to them, or holding a remembrance ceremony. Keeping their memory alive in a positive way can bring comfort and help you feel connected to them.


Losing someone to suicide is a devastating experience, but you are not alone. Allow yourself to grieve, seek support, and remember to take care of yourself. Over time, you will find a way to carry the memory of your loved one with you, and continue to live a life that honors their spirit. Healing is a journey, and with compassion and support, you can navigate through this difficult path. If you ever feel overwhelmed, please reach out for professional help—there is always hope, and there is always help.


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